My marital and sexual issues are well known, despite that I still actively work toward goals and time limits in improving my body, health and mind in the way of sexual excellence. Whether it's reflected in my present sexual situation in the way of my lover's availability or interest, I still strive to better myself and not become complacent that sex will never find me active again. My career is working helping others achieve a more holistic approach to something beyond homeostasis and the question of improving sexual health comes up quite often.

Many around my age 49 (and even younger) already suffer from the top 3 causes of depression, cardiovascular (including high blood pressure) and/or diabetes of which very few (with exceptions) are finite! Exacerbated by damaging pharmaceuticals and compounded by nutritional voids in unhealthy lifestyles that do not include basic physical fitness. Sex is earned not deserved even though (such as I) we feel many times it's expected even if my wife will never again appreciate the gains and improvements I've made? Or that any of you might achieve from following a more holistic lifestyle, another eventually will despite your present situation(s)!

Feeling good, looking good and being ready at a moment's notice to rock those walls will only benefit you in the long run and improve your chances in finding happiness again, I believe this to be true!

 

When I do things that make me feel better about myself - which can range from improving my physical body to learning a new skill or taking up a hobby - and do it for myself, I find that I become a lot more attractive to other people. I'm a happier, more confident person, and those are attractive qualities.

 

I couldn't agree more! I've tried this approach myself, and my wife has definitely noticed.

 

If your not comfortable with who you are and love yourself then who will? I do things to boost my own confidence and it does help alot. However someone else making you feel good or believing in you helps alot too. And how someone close to you sees you or treats you can have a big influence on you.

 

I'm happy I found the positivity at the end but I can't spell the sound that reverberates from my lips regarding the rest. This place should have an exchange program for the hard of digesting. You know, have a month in my world, I'll have a month in yours.

Don't mind me Milo. Sometimes I get too curious, which one of us needs to sleep.

 

Oddly enough for me it was a even that you think would negatively impact me (T12 Spinal Fracture) that made me the better person. I was 21, in hospital and decided I wouldn't let it rule my life. Doesn't mean that I'm perfect or some notable champion for recovery etc. Now but it has made me more confident and especially much more able to ask when I don't know.

As a side note I do owe some of it to certain xnxx members, both past & present and if they are still on here (reading this) thank you

 

You do, I'm good and have a drink on me

 

The only danger in the title of this thread is that whilst it is a good thing to try to better yourself in all things mental, physical and sexual you must accept that you will have your limits and trying to exceed them, and failing, will lead to the opposite of what you were trying to achieve.
Everything in life can be spoilt by 'performance anxiety'; "expecting more of yourself than any lover can" - who do you judge yourself against?
Yes, you should like yourself because if you don't nobody else will, why should they if you don't. But you should not love yourself because nobody like a narcissist.
Nobody can class themselves as a "great lover", that is a classification that can only be given, not assumed.
Every bodies 'abilities/performance' can vary from time to time due to varying circumstances and therefore cannot be given a 'set standard' to be achieved.
You can only aim to be your 'best' at any given time, accepting that next time your 'best' might not reach the requirements. That is when the human ability to be flexible and adaptable comes in and not the ability to perform to any ridged self-set 'standard'.

 

Beautifully expressed first off so thank you, as far as standards at the end of the day we answer to ourselves in that mirror. That we can't be too afraid to be a little more critical yet not to the point of neurosis or narcissistic as you said and while others may judge us as the best or worst lovers they ever had? I still believe that we can evaluate of ourselves those traits that we strive for as being (one might say) our own best, I'll speak for myself here. I bring creativity, energy, a reduced anxiety of performance, pride in my details of improving my appearance and a well of knowledge to adapt to each individual lover based on years of hard fought work under truly harsh conditions and I'm still here. You're goddamn right I'm a great lover! LOL

 

Seriously..?! Just ask me. I can help. You've given plenty, maybe its time to recieve.

 

I know that's true