Some of these stories just make me want to cry from frustration. I'm in the same position. My husband has such a low sex drive. And even when I finally convince him to have sex, he rarely touches me. Do you know what it's like to have sex with someone who never kisses you, never touches or licks your breasts, never caresses you? Well, yeah, I'm guessing most of you do.

 

Nah..its none of that.. I assure you.

prob some crap going on at work.. regardless.. it's driving me nuts.

 

Buy me a ticket. I think I can do everything you desire.

 

If Curiousgirl doesn't kill me off and I have anything left, I can swing through Alaska on the way home!

 

I don't know what to tell you. You would think she would atleast crave the intimacy that comes with sex. My bf and I have a great relationship in and out of the bedroom. I have never had a good sexual partner til I met him. I have to be honest, I like it and will take it whenever he is willing to give it

 

if you cant pry any good answers outta her, or get her 2 talk to doctors, your choices are simple. counsiling, divorce, cheat or suck it up. im in ur spot but it only took 3 years. sorry..its downhill from here. i really think my mrs. problem is hormonal and medication side effects.

 

First off, I would suggest that she get a hormone work up with her OB/GYN. In any case, there are some supplements that might be helpful.

Tribulus extract
Maca
Horny goat weed
Ginseng
Damiana
Wild Yam
Ginkgo biloba
L-arginine (either as a supplement or in a lubricant)
And of course a good multi-vitamin with plenty of B-vitamins and a multi-mineral never hurt anybody.

 

Yes

 

i really wish you luck.best bet... try to get hormone check-up. she on any depressants? gain weight? kids?? mine looked me in eye n said flat out " i just dont care" so shell do nothing bout it...it really sux

 

wow. I cannot imagine rolling over if my wife rubbed my cock and woke me up. if that happen it would be on!!!:awesome:

 

got laid FINALLY last night.. hurt though.. i guess no action for 9 days was too much "down" time lol

 

I guess every body has their moments when these things happen. Hang in there.
Mrs. Phun

 

Wife

My wife could suck your cock and make you forget your problems.

 

After reading this, I thought you were writing about my wife and I. I've been married for 26yrs. For the last 14yrs, I too have just given up on asking for sex. She still knows my sex drive is high, I just am no longer interested in her, but I love her dearly, we are good friends. This year, we've had sex twice. Last year, we had sex 5 times. We only have sex when she wants to, and it's usually two days before her period. We've had numerous talks over the years, she constantly promises to do better. What bothers me the most is when she goes out of her way for everyone else, even for total strangers, doing special deeds for them. But can't find the time, the energy, or even think about me. I joke (it's actually sad), that my massage therapist and my waxing specialist see me naked more than my wife....and I sleep nude every night.

I gave up on asking because it was killing our marriage, I was constantly angry and frustrated, and I realized that my kids were getting only the worst of me. I even started negotiating for sex, even offered to pay for it, exchange for some task she wanted done. I found myself begging and I felt humiliated. I had to do something. Since I stopped asking, we get along much better. Oh, and I never compliment her anymore about her physical appearance. That way, I never receive a negative comment in reply. Why women do that, I will never know. Don't they realize that when they do that, it hurts. It feels like my personal opinion means nothing, totally discredited.

I too struggle with the decision to find satisfaction elsewhere, a friend with benefits. Someone in the same position I'm in. I get a lot of flack from women saying that's cheating. But, isn't not having sex being cheated? What scares me the most is that I've never been with another woman. I was a good Catholic virgin when I married her. There are so many things that I read on this site that I will never experience.

But life goes on, day after day, week after week. I don't look forward to the day that the kids are all in college or out of the house, and it's just the two of us.

 

I was making a sweeping generalization and I shouldn't be doing that. I was getting all worked up as I wrote the reply. I used to love complimenting my wife, but with every compliment, came a negative comment. For instance, if I saw her nude, I would say "wow, sexy" and she would say "no I'm not". It could be anything, nice outfit, nice hair, great legs, etc..., always came back that I was wrong. It got to the point, where I started believing her and just kept my comments to myself. Why tell her that she looks good in the outfit, just for her to come back and say no she doesn't. I would like for once, tell her how awesome she looks and how she makes me feel, and she just come back with "thank you".

You are right, not all women are like that. I gave my hair dresser a compliment last week. She had on these black jeans that made her look very sexy. I complimented her and she told me that I made her day.

 

Grats on getting laid Why'd it hurt though? Baby moved down?


What I took it too mean, is when he gives her a compliment, "You're so beautiful, or even goes out of his way to say something like "Those pants make you ass look great!

Instead of being pleased, the woman responds with "But I'm not beautiful, or "These pants are size eighteen, so I'm fat.

 

*hugs* you sound like a wonderful man!

 

Yes knox, exactly. Those are good examples too. And, to be honest, I still throw them out there every once in a while to hear her response.

 

Wish I could tell you how to make her believe you