I'm just wondering what sex is to eveyone, and how has it changed over time? For me was an amazing experience that is shared with someone special, but over time it has become a way to release stress and have a good time with someone. Thoughts?

 

Sex can b used as different things for different ppm bUT there is nothing wrong when I comes to making uraelf feel good so.whst.ever does that 4 u then do it

 

Look sex is what u make of it it does different things to different ppl of doing what u are makes u happy then do that dont worry bout what other ppl think. Cuz u might miss out on a lot

 

Come here and ill show you sexy

 

First off great question I commend it! Sex to me has been a lifelong pursuit not just in the physical sense, but in the way it has shaped my mind, body and spirit. It's the essential life blood of over 36 years of researching, studying and the pleasure, knowing enough to share and educate that which I've learned with young people and couples who unfortunately for many never have had a comprehensive "sex talk" with their parents or peers. A journey thus far that has shaped my over 32 year commitment to the love of my life Lil' Donna, two amazing adult children and a lovely granddaughter who will know the beauty and all the pitfalls of a healthy, safe sexual view of the choices she makes just as my children have.

 

This is a great question and I hope the thread becomes great as well. I need more time to fully formulate the type of answer that this question deserves. For now I will say that I believe (or at least for me) there are several aspects to sex, similar to what I understood @Milo Cronos to write in his post above.

There is the physical aspect of sex which involves the physical sensations that I feel from what my partner does to me and from what I do to my partner. There is an emotional aspect of sex which involves the nature and strength of the feelings I have towards my partner. These feelings apply context to the physical sensations, substantially enhancing them when I have strong positive feelings towards my partner. (Technically, negative feelings will diminish the physical sensation but who (not me) has sex with partners for whom he or she harbors negative feelings?) There is spiritual aspect, that I have not fully thought out. So far, I think it involves how my partner reacts to what I do to her and how she reacts to my reactions to what she does to me. It may overlap somewhat with the emotional aspect. Then there is an intellectual aspect, at least for me, which involves the application of my accumulated learning of sex techniques to my partner. The degree to which I am more successful or less successful in creating a great sexual experience for both me and my partner affects the overall pleasure and sense of well-being I derived from that sexual encounter.

I will think about this topic more and add to my post this week-end. I wonder if others feel I am over-thinking or over-analyzing sex? If so, please comment on why.

 

Sex is the reason to live.

 

Sex for me started out pretty great the girl I lost my virginity to also lost hers to me. And I struck gold she was great she loved to try new things and explore, never a dull moment. But now 5 years later I'm with someone else and it's different we are having sex maybe once a month, and it always feels like something out of reach.

 

Absolute nonsense......too many people attach too much importance to sex especially letting it define a monogamous relationship.

I find it is fantastic heart and lung exercise and I hate golf anyway!

I know many golf widows who share my view!

Serious answer when I have thought about it!

Thinskin

 

Sheer self indulgence, fulfilment of a basic animal need and entertainmentfor me now. From my earliest experiences I have never associated sex with caring or love. Sometimes that causes problems but I can't change the past.

 

But can it be associated with caring or love? It almost sounds exclusionary. Like those two things - sex and love - can't co-exist.

 

Sexy can be for fun and release, or to be close and intimate.
When I was a lot younger I confused sex and love. Now I can have great sex with someone I don't love, or OK sex with someone I do.
However there are times when intimacy comes into play and making love happens. That only happens with someone I love

 

Sex can also be an opportunity to read the newspaper while she rides you cowgirl. We need to be more open here, people.

 

To me, making love is an amazing experience shared with someone special. Sex is shared with anyone who will share it with me.

 

Sex in the beginning was exploring myself, my cock, cumming and trying different techniques. These actions where then replaced by exploring sex with other guys in my early teenager years as exploration. It was all about self pleasure whether by myself or someone else. Women came into the equation later in my very late teens and early twenties. Sex with women morphed into a different experience where satisfying your partner was as important if not more important. I think it was more important because I wanted the women to have a good experience and come back for more and I felt manly in getting a woman to orgasum. I enjoyed having sex with woman (and still do). However during this time I wanted pleasure for myself and never stopped pleasing myself and then began to have anonymous sex with men primarily at Adult Book Stores (ABS) and use of gloryholes. Sex with women was more exciting and fulfilling because of the human interaction experience. But alas, women only have so much sex during a given period of time and men seem to (at least me and many of the men on XNXX Forum) want more. I have kept the bisexual anonymous sexual lifestyle and still enjoy the physcial pleasure but have become more involved in providing pleasure to the men along with women but have not become emotional involved with men. I become emotional involved with women (maybe because most women require it to have sex) and derive greater enjoyment from having the emotional attactment and the physical act. Only wish the women wanted sex more often and I would not have as much need for just having physical sex. I do not think I will ever give up pleasuring myself. It is a great, fast and relaxing exercise Just some thoughts from an older guy..... That is what sex means to me. Maybe the difference between love and sex?

 

If sex is not the reason to live
Then I'd have to say
I can't live without sex

 

Sex is raucous, wild and uninhibited! Making love is just as much fun, more sensual, a slower pace.

 

After thinking for longer than is healthy for me and after pleasure, I think sex fulfills a need to be desired. It makes me feel human and for reasons I still need to understand...It keeps me from feeling old.

 

Its a connection spiritual as well as physical. Of course mindless sex is fun but great sex is something else

 

They can coexist beautifully dependent on each individuals wants, needs and wills, so yes!