Hurray!

 

yayy, and ha, not good looking? Youre fucking beautiful! I bet you at least 10 guys here jerk to ur avitar... (jk jk lol)

and very well and good luck and I know how it feels to get out of a shitstorm alive!


and Talk about a bad childhood...

I was hyper when i was a kid and my brother basically beat me and always made me feel like shit when I was a kid, constant names beating the shit outta me, not just brother to brother beatings I mean once he hit me so hard when i called him an asshole for breaking my toy He hit me in the arm and broke my fucking arm, hes broken many of my bones...so I was always bottling up rage and got in lots of fights... I was diagnosed being ADHD and Bi-Polar, when I was 5 they put me on some drugs like riddilin and stuff, gave me anti-stroke and ant-heart attack medicine, for the side effects of some drugs, I must have been on 3 anti depressents and all this shit cause I was basically falsely diagnosed, and it was the side effects, so I was in and out of some psychiatric insitutes where i shared rooms with Violent mentally retarted kids...for weeks on end I spent my time in those places away from my parents, I must have been like 8 or younger, ive probably spent 6 months of my life in those places, horrible, been to those child specialests who supposedly know wtf theyre talking about but only prescribe drugs...

I spent most of my nights in a Dimly Lit room, on a spring matress that was layed on the cold, hard cement with locked doors and paint peeling off the walls, lights out at 8.30, with the echoes of crying children, zoning out, falling into my own, empty, black world of depression, and hate, disgust, and utter fear... I spent most of my nights listening to the chains rattle on the brass pipe of the kid in the next room whom was extremely violent and would bang his head against the wall until he was knocked out... Id awake every morning with a handfull of pills and a cup of water, I would spend most of my days taking physicals, blood work, hours of councling and psychological anilization, They would take my blood every week wich put me in a hellish torrent of fear, I was and still have an extreme fear of needles... I was mainly put in special Education classes for most of my childhood, still to young to express myself, and 'special' schools for kids like me, when I was 11 my dad saw all the pills I was taking, threw them out...3 days later I was fine, no anger, depression, suicidal thoughts, nothing... My mind was in a total bliss of pure happiness that I had never exprenced... and ive been fine ever since.

Sometimes I wish I had a childhood, I miss the first years that I can remember where i was in an oblivious state and nothing mattered to me with no worries, no fears, no nothing... and Ive always wanted that, but never have been able to have it... I went to normal schools covering up my past, trying to forget, but the 7 year chunk and the heart pains as a result of some medicines will always plague my mind...and I will never forget

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I would go deeper and Write a page or 2 describing it all, but I have no time...all I can say is that it was utter hell

 

Well, Pookey, at least we know how you came to be the nice, normal, well-adjusted guy we all know and love. :wink:

 

I didn't read all the posts so excuse me if this has been said. I can easily see where the guy is coming from, not saying he's right or wrong, but every guy has been there. There are times when i'm like damn, i wish i had a gf right now that i could chill with tonight. Or i think about the security of a relationship, how i could call her up any time of the day if i'm bored or whatever. But then theres me when i go out on weekends when i bounce from party to party hang out with whoever i want and not have to be concerned with anyone else. Regardless if i go home with anybody or not, its still fun to mingle with hella people througout the night you know. But there are nights when i just wanna chill and i dunno watch a movie or something. I've had the oppurtunity to get with a girl while i've been in this stage and i turned it down and there are many times when i regret that decision. But now i figure i'll let myself live in fantasy land and assume when i meet the right girl, i won't wanna go out and mingle and party hop and get stupid drunk. And of course, just cause you're in a relationship doesn't mean that i would love for her to go out with her friends and for me to go out with my friends. I guess i sound just as confusing as ron and provided 0 insight ha, sorry. But i guess all i can say is that there are 2 sides to most guys and when it comes to a relationship you have to decide which one means more to you. If he can't commit to you, then its not worth fretting over. He might love you, care about you, adore you, but if he can't commit then whether or not he would like to admit it, his independence means more to him than being with you.

 

ok - let me see if i have this all straight.
1. you are an 18 yr old girl who was engaged to someone online, and have never met in person.
2. if you do go to where he is, he wants to have sex with other women while you are in the other room, but still have sex with you.
3. he wouldnt mind if you were commited to him, but he wont commit to you.
4. you think this guy is the only person who will ever love you

now here is my response
RUN
you are way too young to be involved with someone like that. being involved is a bit of a stretch anyways since you have never even met him. 18 yrs is just startign life, you arent carrying his baby, so you dont need someone like this in your life. use the butterfly test - if you love him, set him free. if he really loves you he will come to you.

 

QFT.

Get some distance between you and this guy. Hopefully when you look back on this in time you'll get a whole different perspective and won't even need someone to explain 'what's wrong with you'.

 

I do believe Sarai has basically closed the topic with a closing statement of

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lol ty ty *bows*

 

shit man i know what your talking about, had one girl that was some what interested me, started out as a shoulder to cry on i listened then teased her and was like well you owe me whenever I have a difficult time, and she was like yeah she'd do the same for me, then i expressed that I had interest in her and she said she wouldn't mind going on a date(she goes to a different college) and before that date i had one bad day that i had to share and she wouldn't even respond to my texts like she was ignoring me on purporse. made me feel like shxt, I already had low confidence but this is the pits. I've never even had a gf and now I'm sophomore in college, life sucks hard sometimes, I'm just waiting to finally find a girl that I can really connect too

 

I'm curious as to how long you and he had been chatting before you moved onto a "relationship" and who initiated the "engagement"?

Sarai, to be really honest with you I think you need to walk away from this. Why are you bending over backwards for this scumbag? In that conversation you showed us that you are willing to let him sleep with anyone he wants and you agreed to share his body with other girls of his choice. WTF?!

He does not love you in fact he has no respect for you at all, he told you he didn't care if you slept wth other men, "as long as you use protection". If he loved you, if he thought anything of you he damn well would care if you slept with anyone else and furthermore, he would not want any other girl apart from you.

The truth of the matter is he is a player, he sleeps around and he has more than likely been doing that all the months you have "known" him. All he is doing now is letting you know that.

He doesn't want a relationship because that would impinge on his "free and single" lifestyle that he values so much.

Walk away, there is nothing wrong with you - the only thing wrong here is that a complete asshole as taken advantage of your feelings. It might not be easy but just cut off all contact. Leave him to the other girls, find someone you can actually trust and who will actually care about and love you.

I know some men can be complete pigs but there has to be some nice genuine ones out there.

Good luck x

 

Move On From This!

It's clear you don't want what he's offering and he doesn't sound mature enough to handle it yet so, contrary to belief you can't "train him" to be on board with a seriously committed relationship! Even as the vehicle for a future threesome you need to start with a solid relationship this one won't work!

 

Fuck no. Dump that fucking prick

This dudes a grade a douchebag. He sounds like such a piece of shit. He is just using you. People tell you what you want to hear. The only reason you think there could be a chance is you like him a lot.

He said that's the "man" in him, that is total bullshit. If he was a man then he would commit if he "really" liked you.

Like others said he just wants a fuck buddy. The moment he finds one that he likes more he will kick you to the curb and give you some bullshit about how it's not working anymore or how "you" aren't the same. It's always the same with people like that.

There was a girl I really liked in high school that liked me. But there was this stupid fucking prick that used her promising her that they would date. After every time they had sex he would treat her like shit. But she kept going back because he "acts different now"

Seriously dump that piece of shit. I really hope you already have because it might hurt to do it but it will hurt far worse when he leaves you.

 

hi

 

Guy sounds like a textbook example of a manipulator and you sound like the textbook example of their favored target, a co-dependant.

You know what really pisses me off about this situation? I've watched it play out time and time again with friends. It's so fucking frustrating dealing with women like you because each and everyone of you run right off the cliff no matter who tells you it's there or how they tell you.

This guy is going to fuck you over and not in the good way. You are going to get your heart shattered after he's done using you. I hope you have friends that will be there for you to pick up the pieces.

Manipulators manipulate EVERYONE in their lives. So it doesn't matter who in his life you know. He's manipulating them too, it's second nature to them.

But because I can't help warning people about cliffs, for your own sake, please don't run off this particular cliff.